What you see online is a person’s highlight reel of their life. Comparing that to yourself and your everyday life is not very productive for your self esteem.
Although a person’s online presence is not very private, what thy choose to post and how they represent themselves online is another story all together.
A selfie is a perfect example of a person choosing to portray themselves in a certain light. For example I know just from my social media accounts on Facebook and Instagram, that people post selfies for a number of reasons.
Mostly, and in my opinion the best ones, are those candid shots of friends going out and having fun. On the other end of the scale there are those that are taken purely for narcissistic purposes. #likeforalike #followforafollow #sunsoutgunsout
It is selfies like these that can be the most damaging. Placing your self worth on how many likes or comments you get on a photo isn’t going to actually make you happy. Nor is putting out your boobs with 70 filters on top going to help. Real talk, not one is that evenly tanned.
The usual description of someone who takes selfies is young, female, bored, vain, attention seeking and insecure. To some extent I have to agree. I’m guilty of taking a selfie, as are many people. But in comparison to all the selfies that are posted online, there are some that do fit the above description. Why mostly young people do so comes down to acceptance. A person feels a boost in their self esteem if a photo of themselves gets enough likes. The feeling is addictive. But people have to remember that a selfie isn’t an accurate representation of themselves.
in this digital age where we can see a photo as soon as it’s taken gives us the option of deleting it if it is not the representation of how we want ourselves to be. Along with if the photo is ‘pretty’ enough, how many likes we get, seems to be the determining factor as to how good a time was had, along with how much you like the person.
In her vlog, YouTube personality Superwoman, discusses the finer points of why people use Instagram (hint: #bulklikes). One of her main arguments is that people should not compare themselves to the lives they view on Instagram as it’s a highlight reel of a person’s life, and comparing it to your blooper reel isn’t healthy. Photos are posted to show people what new thing they own, along with how good they’re looking at that moment. Usually accompanied by a caption that doesn’t relate in the slightest. #doubletapsequalfacts #lookatallthefreindsihave #whogoestothegymtoworkout
Superwoman goes on to say that people put so much effort into the photos they post, especially for food. It’s self validating. Especially thanks to the filters. #valencia #1975 #omaro #i’ddoubletapthat #ishipthat
Anyone with a social media account is guilty of bragging about something. Whether it be about where they were, what they own or who they were with, it’s captured and posted online for everyone to notice how fantastic their life is.
But really would it be fantastic without the camera angle, filters and likes from the fake followers you can buy? #idon’tthinkso